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Convincing yourself everything is 'fine'? Discover what happens when we try to stick to that story when our Glow is saying otherwise.

Hi Reader!

This week we had a moment where my kiddo's energy management system went absolutely kerflooey.

With back to school and family birthday celebrations, our energy has been struggling to adjust to the new rhythms, excitement and drains.

Pairing that with an almost 11-year old who can be really hard on himself and push himself beyond his capacity to handle 'all the things' he had a moment where it was like the springs just blew out of his head during a game of backyard baseball after dinner.

As I sat with him to help him regulate his energy again, I tripped his circuits again and he kept declaring that he was 'fine, absolutely fine' then start to ramp up his feelings.

It was evident that things were absolutely not 'fine' and he wasn't able to name what he was really feeling, but in that moment he was sticking to the story that things were 'fine'.

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Sticking to Your Story

Have you ever told a lie?

And then you start to get caught in it... and the only way out seems to be doubling down and pushing yourself to believe it as much as you are trying to convince others to avoid facing the truth?

For my kiddo in that moment, telling one of the biggest whoppers that have ever been told in Bear Country was less scary than taking a breath and acknowledging that he was tired, his patience was thin and that he had done the best with the capacity he had.

(Any one else catch that Berenstain Bears reference? *affiliate link)

Using the signature moves of the Glow Compass, I helped steer the conversation to Notice and Appreciate things that had gone well about how he played and support him in a few moments of Pauses so that we could Transition into getting ready for bed.

Having the Glow Compass framework has been so helpful in helping me notice where we're 'at' with our feelings and the direction they are heading so that we don't stick ourselves to a story that isn't serving us.

Does this have you curious? The Glow Foundations course helps you explore your Glow and how to navigate it with a sense of intuitive confidence so you stop feeling 'fine' and start flourishing.

​Grab it now (before the price goes up) and get the updated version that incorporates my deeper framework that weaves in this nervous system awareness and makes it even simpler to incorporate into your life jammed full of 'all the things'.

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Your Adventure of the Week

Take note of the stories you are telling yourself this week.

You may not have a kerflooey moment, but simply moments where you declare things are 'fine' when they really aren't.

When we are honest with our feelings, we unlock the true power of our Glow and use it as a trustworthy guide.

To help you explore this, my friend Sonja Wood is hosting a free masterclass about compounding emotions and how they affect our relationships.

With a background in mediation, I'm excited to hear her insights and learn ways I can use them to support my Emotional and Connection Glow.

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As you name the stories you notice, notice how you can start to reclaim your main character energy again and stop settling for 'fine'.

Ask yourself-

• What are some of the biggest whoppers I've told myself?
• What is really happening when I start telling myself I'm 'fine'?
• How can I notice how I'm using this story to protect myself from what's really going on?
• How can I start to shift into main character energy and start to shift my story?

Reader, I'm hoping that you are finding your rhythm this week and honoring your energy.

Because while kerflooey feels fun to say, it's not fun to experience 😳

Do you have a word you use to describe when things get chaotic? Cattywampus, sideways and bonkerballs are other ones I like to use. Tap reply and let me know 🤯😤😭

(I may just give you a sneak peek into the magic I'm adding to the Glow Foundations course so you can start to use the Glow Compass in your own life 🤭)

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p.s. if you already purchased the Glow Foundations course, you'll receive the fully updated content when it launches next month.

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